“Pisces along with Neptune rule the 12th House, the last house of the 12 which make up our chart…the 12th House is the realm of Artists and Insanity. Of Asylums and Prisons. Of Addiction and Spiritual Awakenings…
It is a scary place because so many lose themselves in these dark waters. When we are in them, we/I forget there is anything else but the dark terrain. We are in danger of getting fully swallowed by voices and ideas that are moving through the collective at any given time…
So when we hear in our thoughts , “you are a failure…you can do nothing right…you have no value,” all universal voices that depressed people hear, they are not our own. We were inseminated with these voices at the moment of our birth from parents who had themselves internalized them. All of us were born into a patriarchal culture which set up impossible standards to achieve, let alone upside-down values of what it is to be human.
The greatest revolution is the one each human faces within themselves. The more we break out of these lies and this conditioning, the more we come out of our hiding, the more we share ourselves with others in groups we feel safe in or with one friend… the more we really see ourselves and begin to build our strength in revolt against these collective abusive systems. In this way, we destroy the ‘horcruxes’, the inner curses, one human at a time.”
–words by Kathleen Prophet, with minor edits.
Somewhere amidst the lonely tracks of the past several months, I have interwoven another journey, an exploration of what it means to be human.
It wasn’t a path I intended to take, but there was something that inevitably pulled me there, something in the rawness of being curled up for days in the fetal position under heavy blankets, wishing the world would disappear.
I’ve discovered that my worth as a human being has nothing to do with the months that are stacking up under the “employment gap” on my resume, or the bills that I can no longer pay on my own. Or the desperate feeling that I’ve made so many critical mistakes in recent years.
Being human simply means that I am worthy of dignity and freedom. And that all I wish for in this life is to love, be loved in return, and walk gently upon the Earth.
I am heartbroken at the world I live in — my own, and the one we collectively share. It weighs so heavily on me in every moment, sometimes so much that I feel like I can’t take the next breath. I often wake up in the middle of the night with my jaw clenched and my fists balled up, and a scream that wants to rise and explode from my belly into my throat.
And still, I am here, and I am human. And I am deprogramming the urge to fix this.
Other than basic self-care and being vulnerable enough to ask for help when I need it, there is nothing else here to fix. I’m glad to have recently abandoned the insanity of the self-help/personal development industry…there is no magic mantra or practice or manifestation technique that I want to paint over this grief. There is, instead, an opening wide to receive all of it, and a deep listening to the heartbeat of the Earth.
I find comfort in this quote from a fellow wise woman:
“If we are going to come back into the rhythm of nature, we have to slow down.
If we imagine the world as our own body, speaking to us in loud, desperate pleas, the first thing we have to do is listen.
We must acknowledge the limitations that have brought us to this terrifying precipice. We don’t know what we don’t know, and instead of pushing through our injury and confusion, we need to surrender the rush and show up instead with our heartbreak to encounter what is becoming.
Be hospitable to what stillness has to offer.
Cherish the opportunity to sink into the eternal, which is available to be bathed in at any given moment.”
— Toko Pa Turner
“The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious.
If you have a deep scar, that is a door,
if you have an old, old story, that is a door.
If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door.
If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.”
~ Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves
(Fyi: The word that touches my heart the most in this quote, that breaks it open every time, is “sane.”)
“Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are and love you no matter what.” — unknown
Cutting cords today, thanks to the illumination following last week’s powerful blood moon eclipse. Feeling the freedom that comes with finally realizing that sharing DNA with another human being doesn’t mean I have to want or need or receive any of the following from them: love, reassurance, acceptance, respect, understanding, etc.
Life is big, and wide, and open. With every new breath, I come deeper into the knowing that my life is fully and gorgeously my own. And it always has been.
“Show me the light, and rise like the moon in the darkest of night….put all your beauty deep into the fire.” – from Flesh and Blood, by Ed Prosek
The trees ahead and the bushes beside you are not lost.
Wherever you are is called Here,
And you must treat it as a powerful stranger,
Must ask permission to know it and be known.
The forest breathes. Listen. It answers,
I have made this place around you,
If you leave it you may come back again, saying Here.
No two trees are the same to Raven.
No two branches are the same to Wren.
If what a tree or a bush does is lost on you,
You are surely lost.
The forest knows Where you are.
You must let it find you.